Growing up I’ve always have more responsibility than most people my age. Being the middle child I was always responsible for my younger brother and I always had to make sure that my older brother was straight. Often I felt like I didn’t have anyone to check on me and to see if I was OK. It was almost like I was obligated to be stronger than my brothers and often I usually was. At one point in my life I even had to go to my little brother’s teachers meeting when he was in school. Sometimes I had to cook for the family and even make sure my dad was straight because he couldn’t do a lot on his own. Taking care of others is overwhelming especially when you’re not prepared to have that responsibility.
Some people often have to adapt the job of taking care of others because they can’t afford to get care for their love ones. It’s almost like you have to sacrifice your life to make sure your family members are straight but at the end of the day who will make sure you’re straight ? I often ask myself this question because while you’re taking care of other people no one around you is expecting you to need anything, and I think that’s a problem with society now. You see your sister taking care of your mom and you don’t bother to see if she needs anything. You’re just focused on what’s going on with your mom and sometimes even stress your sister out because you’re not particularly happy with how she’s doing her job, so you often criticized her. You throw everything on her instead of asking if she needs a break or wants to do something. You tell others that she took that responsibility on her own so she should be 100% responsible. Now ask yourself is that is fair? Yes, she did take that responsibility, but did you give any other solutions? Maybe she would have money to do things differently, Did you offer to give her money?
When I was given the responsibility to take care of so My family members I’ve often thought Life wasn’t fair. Like my parents expected me to be the responsible one because I came off as mature but I just wanted to be a kid, a teenager, A young adult, but I never got to be those things because, for the longest,I was taking care of people. This often makes you bitter because you feel like you’re missing out on so much by being at home all the time so when you do get the opportunity to leave you tend to act like you don’t want to come back home.. There’s been times where my friends would asked me to come with them and I will spend the night at their house sometimes even for the weekend because I just didn’t want to go home.
Have you ever been in one of those situations where you wanted to move and you have all the essentials to move but you feel like when you move they’re going to need you so you might as well stay? This is the worst feeling for me . Damned if you do, damned if you don’t . These are reasons why we as a family, friends, business partners etc. Need to help others that we care about with issues like these. When you have free time won’t you just help a friend and take care of somebody for them so they can do stuff. About 30% of people that are depressed are people like these, someone start taking care of a loved one because he or she is sick are incapable of doing things on their own . Imagine taking care of someone while you’re in your 20s 30s or 40s, not married, no kids… it’s not easy for them. #thisiswhatdepressionlookslike