Lending a Helping Hand.

Being there for someone is something that we often do but don’t realize how important that is. A lot of people say the reason why they’re depressed is because they don’t really have anyone to talk to about their issues, so they’re forced to isolate their self from society. A lot of times we go through things and require a helping hand ,but we choose not to tell anyone about it because we don’t want to bother them or we don’t want to seem like we’re begging for something. This is a problem.

I’ve always been that kind of person that never wanted to ask people for any type of help. I would literally have zero dollars in my account and need to pay a bill ,but i’ll do anything to figure out how I’m going to pay it on my own. I’ve often isolated myself from people so they wouldn’t know that I need any type of help. This has led me to some of my darkest days, because sometimes I just needed an ear to listen to what I was going through. Me not allowing someone in my world made me suffer. You’re not helping anyone by not letting them know what you’re going through our what you need because your problem could be solved, but you don’t allow it to be by holding it in. You’re actually hurting yourself more by holding stuff in.

Although opening up has been hard for me, being there for other people hasn’t been my strong suit either. I tend to be there for people when they need it. If they need something financially and I have it I’ll give it to them. When someone needs a person to talk to attempt to be there, but I really don’t know what to say to people when they have things going on with them. I’ve learned that the best answers are the ones you don’t overthink. Try to comfort someone without sounding like you’re trying to be in their business. Learn to give suggestions and not solutions. This means to give them an option they can think about, but don’t tell them they should do that. It’s complicated. Sometimes people don’t want suggestions in general. Just listen. Learn how to give compliments. Learn how to view from their end. Don’t be afraid to call or pop up on somebody. Show them that you’re actually willing to be there for them and you want to be there for them. You can save a life by doing so. #thisiswhatdepressionlookslike

 

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