When we go on interviews, we’re often asked, “do you work well under pressure?” of course we say yes right? Working under stress, such as meeting a project deadline for an example, can keep you on your toes. It often motivates you and keep you alert. Stress can also motivate you to prefect your craft. Playing a sport, for example, often stresses you to be better than you are so you work as hard as you can to obtain those goals. I must say a little stress isn’t necessarily bad but, like anything, too much can be too overwhelming.
We often don’t relate stress with depression but really sit and think about it. Imagine working so hard to be great at something and failing. Imagine working day in and day out at something just for others to tell you that your efforts aren’t good enough. Imagine having a project so big due that you dream about it. Imagine obsessing over your work because it’s all you do with your time. Too much stress (or chronic stress) can leave you in a major depression.
I remember days where I would work so much, stress so hard about deadlines, that I would physically get sick from it. I remember going in the restroom one time and crying my eyes out because someone told me that a project that I worked on for a week straight, that I had nightmares about when I went to sleep, was not done properly and I needed to do it all over again. Days like this I wouldn’t even eat because I was so stressed out about work. On top of all of that, I was still a student so I will have to leave work and go straight to school. I often tell people to be careful what you wish for because we tell these jobs we work well under pressure, but in all honesty, this causes us harm. Especially when you don’t have coworkers to talk to about your issues. Often I felt like I had no one to confide in because nobody understand what was stressing me at work. This was because no one worked there to understand what was an issue at my job. We often keep our work problems too ourselves because of this.
Even positive aspects in your life such as having children and getting married can make you extremely stress. Whether it’s planning an event or other people around you with different opinions clouding your thoughts, it’s all extremely stressful. Overthinking is what leads to depression. Thinking you’re not good enough or poor coping skills when things go wrong is the leading cause of depression. 1 of 4 pregnant women suffer from this. Whether it’s stress from weight issues and body changes in general to wondering if they’ll make a great parent in the first place. It’s mentally exhausting. Same with marriage. Often people stress over combined money, beliefs and just being with the same person for the rest of their lives. Most aspects of life can trigger depression. Although stress isn’t a disease, it’s often associate with high anxiety and suicidal thoughts, both popular traits of depression. We should treat and take care of ourselves. Talk to one another about our problems. Offer a helping hand. Look for another job that’s stress free. Try to avoid being in that dark place that both stress and depression can put you. #thisiswhatdepressionlookslike