Hey guys!! I’m back with a short post about compassion. I don’t use this platform to address current events, and I won’t start now. I will talk about the lack of empathy shown on social media and how some of us may feel like we can’t express ourselves without being told “get over it” or “it’s not that deep”. I do this too unfortunately, and I’m a work in progress. One thing I will say about myself that others can’t is that I take accountability for my actions. Let me break down the layers of empathy for those who are not familiar with the term.
Being able to put yourself into someone else’s place, and see their perspective is called COGNITIVE EMPATHY. This is probably the most known form and easiest for us to act upon. You yourself might not go through what others may, but you understand why someone would be upset. Main example would be racism. You don’t have to be a minority to understand why racism is unacceptable and often not forgiven. Have compassion for those who doesn’t take racism lightly and understand that it’s not really your battle to fight. If you’re over something and someone else might still be bothered, that’s OK. There’s no timeline for being able to forgive.
When you’re able to literally FEEL the other persons’ emotions when someone expresses how they feel about things, this is called EMOTIONAL EMPATHY. This is a little tricky because this type could be a good and bad thing. Good because you start to really understand what that person is feeling and why they feel this way, but bad in a sense because you can’t really give the compassion fully when you start being emotional attached.
Lastly, having an understanding of empathy and taking actions to help them is called COMPASSIONATE EMPATHY. This is probably the most desirable of all three. Actions speak louder than words for most of us. Showing people and expressing to other’s is a boost for those who need empathy.
Social Media is something that a lot of us view as toxic mainly because of the lack of compassion for important matters. I want to start by saying, I try to avoid being online a lot because when you look for something, you’ll always find it. I find myself looking for the comments that aren’t how I view things and getting myself worked up because of it. It’s like we look for the lack of compassion but in all reality, it’s not that hard to find. I’m learning to follow those who aren’t like this and I’m trying to learn how to ignore what I don’t like on social media. I’m also aware that others can’t handle things like I do.
I hope by reading this you have more of an understanding of what empathy means and why it’s important to have it for others. We as people shouldn’t make people feel bad for things that they should be emotional toward. Who are we to tell people not to care about stuff they have passion for? Be self-aware of your actions when you’re not being sensitive to people’s feelings and note that you’ll be in that person’s shoes someday. Lastly, try not to expect compassion offline. you’ll be disappointed almost every time. #thisiswhatdepressionlookslike